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ObamaCare: Is it really caring for the mentally ill and those in poverty ?

Ironically, the abused are often the ones who are blamed for their abuse and the aftermath that follows by humankind as well as by professions.  By friends, family, coworkers, as well as strangers. By businesses and management.  Victims are continually re-traumatized. The homeless, jobless, imprisoned… are the ones who are pointed at and mocked for things that begun – and may still reside – completely outside of their control.

I’m a victim. I know.  I am also an RN and have worked in the industry.  It’s incredibly angering and extremely frustrating for all involved – those working with the insurance companies, within all levels of social services (from the front desk to the practitioners), and those receiving services. Most everyone’s hands are tied. Most everyone in the process is frustrated. Meanwhile society – and those learning the system – believe that there is help, that there are solutions, that there is something being done.  I beg to agree in yet also loudly differ.

The article within the series The Cost of Not Caring shares: “You can only get care at the very end stage of your illness. The way we pay for treatment of addiction and mental illness, you would be waiting until you have Stage IV cancer before you begin chemotherapy. But that is often how we reimburse for mental health and addiction treatment….”  This is so very, very true.

And then the article writes:  “By the time she was 16, she was addicted to crystal methamphetamine, and homeless. “My depression and anxiety were so extreme, and I had no idea that’s what it was,” says Puckett, 34, a certified peer support specialist in Houston. “And nobody was talking about mental health in the mid-’90s. Every single therapist I went to, the question of a mental health diagnosis never came up. I was always treated as if there was something missing with my character. I was a bad kid or rebellious.”

I’ve witnessed a minimum of three mental health hospitals as being nightmarishly scary and have heard of more from other locations I will never visit.  Mental health hospitals can easily become prisons in and of itself.  And, while they try to help, they often won’t or can’t.  People recycle in and out as “frequent flyers,” there aren’t enough beds for the demands, the workers (management down) often don’t know what the hell they’re doing and inadvertently perpetuate the cycle of violence.

Speaking of prisons, the article shares that 90% of incarcerated women are victims of abuse.  That means 90% of the population of women in the prison system could have had the opportunity to not be in there should they have gotten the help they needed when they needed it.  That means many who are in there do not deserve to be there.  They are there because there was no one willing to help them some way, some how, in the way they needed it when they needed it.

This means that there are people who are stuck in the system of mental health, poverty, and those within healthcare and prison systems who do not deserve – nor do they need – to be there.  There are people in the streets, who are homeless, who can work and are ready and willing to work, but can’t because they don’t have their needs met in the way that is needed for them to become functional.  They either can’t work or hold down a job because their medical and/or mental health needs are not being met.  Sometimes this is by choice, and sometimes it just plain isn’t.

Sometimes all they need is the right combination of medical care and social services.  But, there is not enough money, time, resources, interest, and the set-up is so messed up that the whole process becomes a cyclical problem.  Spiritual sources of help are most typically the most un-helpful and non-helpful methods of helping for a myriad of reasons.  There are so many sources, solutions, and ways about going about things that the filtering and information-gathering know-how is lost, overwhelmed, and just not there.

Let me tell you straight up. This ObamaCare system that is in place is not helping. How our medical system is run via medical insurance companies is literally killing us as humans as well as a nation. The best social services that are in place are still unable to help in the ways people desperately need.  The worse off a person is, the least likely it is that they are able to get back on their feet.  Especially with how we help each other via our thought processes, actions, non-actions, and resources.

Ironically, the ones who can help, choose not to. What are you going to do to help and stop the cycle hindering help for the victims? Please, I beg you, help in some way, shape or form. Even if it just means opening your mind to the concept: The abuse, their current state of wellbeing, their diagnosis of mental illness, their status as homeless and/or joblessness just might not be their fault after-all.

If you have a coworker who appears to be suffering from blatant or subtle mental health issues, please help them out.  Either listen, guide them to resources that will help, and give them opportunities that will meet their needs to maintain or retrieve their sanity — even if it means an extra 5 minute bathroom break or a 30 minute extension for lunch from time to time.  Work with each other.  There is a time where you are going to need a favor.  By helping someone gain or re-gain their sanity, you are literally saving a life on many, many levels.

Better yet, pay for someone’s medical bills so that they truly can get the help they need. Good therapists and psychiatrists charge for their services. You can’t get services without the right insurance unless you pay out of pocket. An excellent psychiatrist in the area will only take out-of-pocket or out-of-network insurance options.  Each visit is somewhere between $200-300.  It’ll take a minimum of 2 or 3 back-to-back sessions to start the process of understanding which diagnosis might be going on then to figure out a med to try.  From here, weekly to bi-weekly visits will ensue, tapering off to monthly or bi-monthly visits, then from there it’s best handled through maintaining what is referred to as “maintenance visits.”  If you have a doctor who knows what he or she is doing, the success rate is much higher and at a much quicker rate as he’ll likely know what meds to try first.

But, meds are not the only solution.  It’s a huge step in the right direction, but not the end-all, be-all.  The brain houses the functioning ability of all of who we are as a human: spiritual, physical, social, emotional, and mental functioning all happens as the result of how that structure functions and how well it functions.

Finding the right mental health therapist (psychologist or social worker) is a tricky one.  You have personality differences, biases, opinions, and experiences that are unique to each therapist.  You have different modalities of treatment and each therapist takes a unique approach.  There are times for novices and there are times for experts.  There are times to ignore hick-ups and there are times to find someone who truly is a good match.

Even some psychiatrists and mental health workers despise concepts surrounding mental health as well as the concept of being a mental health client.  Some despise alcoholics, some believe the victim “asked for it,” some believe the patient “is crazy” and thus subhuman.  I was shocked when I learned this, but it’s true.  I heard it from their lips and watched their actions behind closed doors.  It’s hard-pressed to get good help with that sort of mentality going on.  I highly value excellent therapists and providers.  I am more than willing to give you a list of my favorites (smile).

Victims often have a difficult time being able to afford what they need. Doctors who know what they are doing don’t take ObamaCare options – or at least Coordinated Care. Coordinated Care options and social services utilizing this method of payment inadevertently help you become stuck, stay stuck, or get re-stuck. The more complicated a case is, the least likely the professional within those systems knows what is needed to rectify it.  Or, if it’s rectified, the person gets a job and loses the ability to receive follow-up, continued services due to a myriad of reasons.  And so the person stays stuck or gets re-stuck.  It’s a whole process of damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

I’m praying that we are going in the right direction, but the whole experience of desperately needing help and not being able to get it is fucked-up and wrong both from the patient’s perspective as well as the service provider.

In the spirit of giving, please consider opening your mind, concept, and understanding toward the dynamics of what all is involved in mental illness, poverty, and abuse.

What you see is not what you get.

You truly cannot get the care that is desperately needed from those who desperately need it solely through ObamaCare.  It’s a good start, but it’s definitely not an answer to the problem.  If you don’t get the help when you need it, how you need it, that is where you’ll land – unless you are supremely lucky – again, no fault of your own.

So, please, if you’re a victim, get the help you need when you need it how you need it before you desperately need it.  If you’re a friend or family member of a victim, please help that person get the help they desperately need.  They might be able to articulate it, they might not.  They might refuse.  But, please try.  And if you try, take the perspective of the victim not the abuser.  Do not perpetuate the cycle of violence in your attempt to help, not help, or deny helping.

Christmas: The Concept of Giving and Receiving

Christmas is a wonderful time to think about who, what, when, where, and how we give.  It’s a process that is best done with thoughtful contemplation – something that is very difficult to do in this day and age.  It can be incredibly overwhelming to know who and how to give utilizing a method that utilizes mindful caring and compassion that yields results aimed toward the greatest good possible.  Giving is a hot topic that pushes many buttons on many levels for many people.  

I understand the concept of the importance of giving both as a giver as well as a much-needed receiver.  I’m very blessed in ways many, many are not.  I’m also extremely lacking in ways that others are incredibly blessed with.  I’m naturally a giver, but some aren’t.  I’m naturally an empathizer – I understand things from other people’s points of view, but others are completely inept at that.  Many, many Americans are afraid to give in ways that once felt normal and natural.  We all need to be blessed and be a blessing at one point in time.  Both sides – giving and being the receiver – can be burdensome.  

I’ve been asking myself constantly:  Should I ask?  If I am supposed to ask, when and how?  Should I give even if I want to – or don’t want to?  When is the best time to give?  How?  When is it time to give and when should I receive?  Why is this whole concept and process so very, very difficult?  

Please read my blog Give Smart for ideas as to how to give.

Give Smart

There are so many ways to give and to receive.  So many wonderful ways.  So many destructive ways as well.

It’s a blessing to have people and things to give to.  It’s a blessing to know of organizations to give to.  Two I recommend at this moment are Enterprise for Equity and The Olympia Free Clinic.  These are options where truly wonderful people work to provide wonderful, helpful service through kindness and equality.   Kiva is a fun organization too.  If you want to keep a person off the streets, please consider giving to the Community Action Council.

And, if you literally want to save a life, choose Friends New Underground Railroad.  Or, ask Paul Southwick from One George Fox as to how you can make a life a better place for a Christian of the LGBTQ community.  As you know, their life can be hell.

If you want to benefit someone with services from someone who is in life transition, about to go into transition, or wants to figure life out, maybe you can donate on behalf of someone for services such as those Teron offers.  If you want to open up someone’s view of life, consider paying for a ticket to another city, country, or another side of the world.  Or perhaps open horizons through the lens of Humans of New York.

Another idea is to give gifts that keep on giving, through shopping online via AmazonSmile.  Or, give by literally clicking on a link posted on the website of Greater Good (each tab has its own link and opportunity to click to give – hunger site, veterans, animals, and more).  It’s also a whole ton of fun to click on the link, shop, and receive the gifts from these sites as well.

Others are blogging about the concept.  Two blogs I highly recommend visiting are “Socks are Not Enough: Social Justice Lies Upstream from Charity” and Elaine’s reflection on this blog “Socks are Not Enough.”

But, more than that, I highly recommend giving to your neighbor, your relative, your friend who truly need it.  Even professors are on food stamps.  Give smart, so give to charities who enable tax write-offs.  But also give smart in that give in a way that really serves the person you are giving the gift to.

Make the gift meaningful.  Learn about what the person truly wants deep down inside.  Is it a handwritten card?  Choose a beautiful card and take the time to write a meaningful, intentional letter.  Is it a roof over a person’s head?  Maybe you can’t personally afford to do that, but maybe you can help that person find what they need by offering your time, ear, and telephone – maybe even home address.  Does a person want a pen?  Clothing?  A toy?  Maybe just cash?

There are two gifts I gave that were flops:  a fountain pen and a wheel chair.

I gave a fountain pen for a birthday or Christmas present years ago.  It was not the type of pen he uses.  He appreciated the gift, the unexpected gesture of kindness, but it wasn’t usable for him.  He couldn’t use it in a meaningful way and thus it was less desirable for him.  It would have been much more meaningful should I have given him the pen he really, truly was hoping for.  He could use the one I gave, but it wasn’t as effective nor as wonderful should I have taken the time, asked the right questions, and listened to what he truly wanted.  He was incredibly kind, thankful, and grateful, but he could’ve been more thankful and grateful had I given the right type of gift.  Thus, my gift was essentially a poor use of resources, money, time and effort, a disappointment for him, yet a lesson learned for both of us.  It’s better if gifts are not solely lessons learned.

I was working at a job where I was all excited about the ability to purchase a wheelchair for patient.  I made the mistake of assuming what he wanted, the style that would be the best for him, etc.  I was super excited about the idea of being able to choose and give a gift.  Especially one of that nature.  However, all my effort and desire to help ended up into my making a huge mistake and ended up becoming a huge flop.  The wheelchair only got in the way of his daily activities, took most of the space in his bedroom (which was extremely tiny to start with), was completely impractical, and created incredible safety hazards.

The whole point of my sharing this story is that he could have had so much better had I asked more questions.  I ruined his ability to have the chair he needed in the way he needed because of my impractical giving through government resources.  He kindly used it, but he couldn’t use it in the way he truly needed it.  He was incredibly grateful, but I’m certain he felt incredibly frustrated as well.  It was essentially the same thing as giving a bag of candy to a diabetic.  The wheelchair was beautiful, made the mouth water, but was completely non useful with the literal potential of killing the person.

Last Thanksgiving and Christmas were a blast for me.  I used the excuse of a holiday and having no family to spend it with to splurge on others.

I was sitting in the parking lot of a Chevron gas station/Jack-In-The-Box complex while chatting on the phone with a friend who was working on a military base in Japan.  (Ironically he is an individual who choses to spend the vast majority of money he wins via poker machines to give to coffee baristas, base charities, his sunday school students, and more.)  I was feeling in the dumps because I hate the holidays.  I absolutely hate the holidays as “it rubs me in the face” that I’m solo, single, and due to the unhealthy nature of my biological family I just cannot justify spending time with family on a holiday even if they should ask – which they do not.  There is nothing more important in my mind than the concept of love and family.  So, in my mind, if there’s a problem, let’s fix it.  I’ve tried myriads of methods to fix this personal problem of mine, but my methods haven’t worked for me, and what I tried in the past was definitely not going to work for that year, so I conjured up a new solution.

I decided that I was going to use the holiday as an excuse to give.  Partially selfishly so that I can feel like I can be in the holiday spirit, and partially so that I could give just to give, for the sake of giving.  And, to be completely honest, I also partially gave selfishly to yield a much-needed rush of positive, feel-good brain chemicals.  But, when it really comes down to it, I really, really wanted to give in a way that means something to someone somehow and not just to me.  Giving selfishly can become an unselfish act of sheer generosity.

And so, putting my plan in action, I interrupted my conversation with my friend (a gift in its own way) to give a woman cash.  She was so excited, so very excited.  It was only $40 or so – maybe more I don’t remember.  But, she was so excited.  It was so much fun to see.  I wasn’t paying attention to it at the time, but she was a very young mother of two little boys who appeared to have recently been going through a divorce.

On a different occasion, there was a young man I gave $20 to.  He was an angry young man.  Incredibly angry.  Full of hurt and angst.  But, he needed it and I’m grateful I gave it to him – even though he likely used it to numb pain through drinking or otherwise.  Both were intentional gifts.  Gifts that meant something to them and something to me as well.  Gifts that will help in the long-run as well as in the here-and-now.

This same Thanksgiving/Christmas holiday season, I missed an opportunity to give a gift by paying a woman’s purchase.  She was paying for her Christmas meal at a 7-11-type place.  The kids were excited but the mom felt like a complete failure.  They were eating pizza, pepperoni sticks, horrid awful food.  It was her way of giving but she felt horridly guilty and inadequate.  I still feel the weight that was on the mom’s shoulders.  I wish to God I would’ve swiped for her food like I had considered, but I was focused on the total to see if I could afford it.  Rediculousness.  I ended up paying $75 for tons of people’s gas without the intention to (the gas attendant kept my credit card line open (you had to prepay inside) and I didn’t know it).  $30 (more or less) would’ve been just fine.  A blog I wrote that surrounds this time is here.

Appropriate gift giving takes time, effort, resources, along with communication and listening skills.  Many of us don’t have those luxuries.  Thus, we feel discouraged.  And, when we feel discouraged, we give up altogether, make haphazard approaches to solving the problem, overcompensate, and more.

If you are giving a gift for work, family, or friends, consider the source.  Use communication.  Ask yourself is this something that is truly meaningful to them?  Is this a “me” wish or a wish that satisfies a need?

If you don’t have anyone to give to, give to random strangers.  Some ideas are to swipe a card to fill someone’s gas tank.  Swipe your card to pay for someone’s grocery bill.  Pay for someone’s storage unit before they lose their things – it just might be all they own or their storage unit might house memories or meaning that will be forever lost.  Call a local pharmacy and pay someone’s medical bill – or go there in person and swipe your card for them.  Holidays are excellent reasons and excuses to give and do random acts of kindness.  It’s a whole lot of fun for both the giver and the receiver when done right and well.  But these sorts of giving doesn’t have to be done due to the label or intent of celebrating Christmas.

There is a whole ton of red tape involved for services to give to people in need and for people in need to receive services.  I feel that giving to social services or large organizations can often be a copout, but they do serve a purpose.

If you want to give, truly give, be a Good Samaritan yourself – don’t let it just be a Bible story.  Don’t just leave good things, actions, and gifts for the saints to do and give, become Mother Teresa yourself – even she wasn’t perfect and had to start somewhere, somehow.

If you want to truly give, give in ways that mean something to that person.  If you don’t have any money to give, give a hug.  If you don’t have any hugs to give, say something nice in a meaningful way.  If you can’t say something nice, then do something that is nice to them.

Not everyone is greedy.  Not everyone are takers.  Some give too much.  Some give way too much.  Stay balanced in your giving.  You never have to give.  Giving is a choice.  A wonderful choice.  Make it fun, meaningful, enjoyable, in a way that will last.   It’s okay to not give to the person, individuals, groups, or organizations who demand that you give – or guilt-trips you into giving – to them.  It’s also okay to give to people who truly need those services.  Stay smart in your giving.

Different people feel loved differently.  The Five Love Languages is an excellent resource in understanding how a person feels loved (as explained by the blog entry of personalty cafe).

Be intentional in your giving.  Give with goodness and love in your mind and heart.  If you can’t muster up the goodness, don’t give.  If you don’t feel good about that particular idea, method, intent, whatever… don’t give.  If you feel a strong urge to give, then please act on that urge – especially if it’s strong and “keeps popping up.”  There is a God-given reason for it.  However, take a moment of discernment to determine if it’s a gut-reaction or true inspiration.

Whether it’s a gift you are giving, a message you are receiving, or an action you are taking, take a moment and consider questions and ideas Steve writes about in his blog:  consider your motive, consider your audience, and consider your source.

It’s okay to not give in a particular way or form.  It’s okay to choose to not give.  However, it is better to give than to receive.  It’s best to give to those who truly choose to give and pay it forward – be it organizations, family members, friends, or strangers.  It’s okay to feel good about giving or even not-so-good about giving or not giving – just realize it’s a choice to give.  If you use practical, mindful intention in your method of giving, this will yield much better results in the long-run.  But, it’s a process of learning and growing.  It takes time and effort.  But, just like investing money, the best methods yield the greatest results.

Do not judge, but give wisely.  Do not expect anything in return, but give wisely.  “Do not cast your pearls before swine.”  Choose to give in ways that are meaningful.  Find people who truly need what you can give.  And give in ways that they truly need.  “Don’t burn a hole in your pocket.”  Let your resources be reinvested and recycled in some way.  Money and spending money are not the only ways to give.  Sometimes that $5 gift means the same as if you purchased a $5,000 gift.  Sometimes a $5, 000,000 gift has the same value as dirt.  And sometimes verbalizing “give yourself a hug” means more than if you literally gave them a hug or a $500 gift certificate.

There are times to give to an addict, and times to hold off on a particular form of giving.  There are times to give to mean people and there are times to let them go.  There are times to give to demanding situations, individuals, family and organizations, and times to let them figure things out on their own.  Use discernment  – and when you use discernment, let your personal bias fly out the window.

Maybe your husband, wife, son, daughter, sister, brother, friend… would rather a cup of coffee with your smartphone left in your car and a truly open, nonjudgemental, listening ear for an hour, a day, or weekend instead of that brand new Rolls Royce.  Or maybe they want a cup of coffee instead of a pen.  Maybe your friends, family, customers, clients, patients… are begging you to just listen.

Please, give with caring.  Leave selfish, self-centeredness behind.  Just give – truly give.

If you need ideas or  want someone in particular to give to but just don’t know who, feel free to ask me and I’ll be more than willing to help brainstorm or lead you to that person, individual, organization, or more.

With all this in mind, please give.  Think outside the box.  Give smart.  And please, don’t just give on Christmas.

Philosophical Whys

Over these past few months after working in short stints in two different mental health institutions, and while experiencing and reflecting on my own life that involves periods, events, and escapades of sheer hell, I’ve been asking a ton of why questions.  A whole ton of why.

Why are we born into the life, body, family, location in the world, the particular city, education, belief system we have?  Why are we born to experience what we have and are?  Why do some “have” and some not?  Why do we treat each other the way we do?  Has it ever been different?  Why are we killing each other in every way possible – literally and figuratively – from the way we raise our crops to the way we do business to the way we perceive – then treat – each other?  Are all these things chosen or is it all random?  Did God create it into existence, did we imagine it, or was it just something that randomly happen?  Is life and our experienced predestined or random?  Do we make things happen or do they happen from things, events, etc. outside us?

It’s so easy to put blame.  We blame God.  We blame each other.  We blame ourselves.  We blame “the other.”  Is blame justified?  How can blame be overcome?

Where do we get our philosophical, religious ideas?  Who is right?  Which one is right?  Why?  Where did they come from, originate?  Why are they still “alive”?  Have they morphed and changed?  If so, why and how?

Are we star dust?  Are we reincarnated?  Are we here for a purpose?  What is the reason we are here?

Where do we get our ideas as to life, the meaning of life, how we interact with each other and the world?

Why are some people just pure mean, others a mixture, and yet some others sheer angelic in nature?

Why are we so tied to the dollar?  We hate each other because someone has, did have, will have, or has taken in the effort to have.  Why?  Does it matter?  How can this be overcome?

What does it mean to love each other?  What does it look like?

Is there such a divide between male and female, ethnicities, cultures, backgrounds, viewpoints?  Yes.  Definitely.  Why?  Why do we limit friendships and dialogue?

Why are we so afraid?  How can we stop being so afraid?  Fear is so limiting, so disempowering.  So dividing.  Yet we mess with levels of fear in order to intentionally create chaos, bring attention to a matter, or bring about change.  FOX News has much to own up to for capitalizing on the concept of fear.  FOX News has changed – and is changing – our whole country, belief systems, way of thinking (and/or lack of thinking), perceptions, how we act and what we act on, and more.  It’s fascinating to watch things unfold.

Why are people born grotesquely disfigured, crippled?  It’s cruel.  They’re automatically born into a life of being ridiculed, treated poorly, having fewer advantages in life.  Why are people born into lives that immediately trap them and prevent them from experiencing progress?  Systems I understand, but there are people involved.  Why are those particular people seemingly born into that experience?

Are we all insane?  Do some just hide insanity better than others?  Are most of us struggling with some aspect of insantiy while a few have been blessed with full sanity?  Why do so many struggle with depression and anxiety?  It’s a rate of 1 in every 4 Americans who struggle with anxiety alone – half of those also struggle with depression.  Either one of those can be completely disabling, life-killing, family-killing, and a detriment to our society as a whole in micro- and macro- levels.  1:4 is a number recognizing those who are diagnosed with the “disorder.”  There are others on a subscale that don’t require meds or significant treatment or are somehow missed from accurately being diagnosed and/or treated.  Depression and anxiety can create insanity, but there are others who are insane in different levels.  Some of the insane are treated, some aren’t.  Why do we ignore treatment, the cause of the problem, prevent ourselves and others from getting treatment, wait until it’s too late or close to being too late, and more?  Then, we point fingers at the insane, laugh at them, ridicule them, shun them, put them into closets of rooms in crazy-making institutions filled with other crazy people who still aren’t getting the proper treatment that is needed to gain at least a minute amount of sanity.  Why so many excuses?  Finger-pointing? Name-calling? Blaming?  By ourselves to ourselves independently as well as to and by others on a personal and societal level?  In other words… why is so many things being done, covered up, and dismissed with the end result of so much good being stopped and prevented on so many different levels?  The human cost factor of untreated mental illness, insanity, and lack of mental health (each are independent of each other yet intertwined and all slapped with the label of “mental illness”) is huge.  There is an incredible cost on many detrimental levels to our own lives, our family life, our places of employment which all bleeds into the health and well-being of our local community, society, state, and country.  In yet, we turn our heads, give excuses, label, become afraid, dismiss the problems and root causes of the problem…  Why?

Why do we who have want to save the lives or see things continue as they are for those who are experiencing – or will experience – a life of horror?  There is a time to live and a time to die.  Sometimes enough is enough.  Yet, we continue the torture and are horrified once the torture is no longer or is prevented.  Abortion and suicide are two concepts that we just don’t get.  We choose not to get because we don’t want to fathom pain.  But in not fathoming pain, in not understanding it, we create it.  Hordes of it.  Horrific amounts of it. We go on our merry lives in joy and normalcy while those we have made to live live in sheer agonizing hell.  I do not advocate abortion nor suicide.  But, let’s take a step back and ask ourselves why – a whole ton of why.  Why do people do it?  What happens if we stop it?  What happens if we prevent it?  What happens if we solve the root cause of the problem?  What is the root cause of the problem?  In other words, Why?  What happens if, when…?

Why don’t we do more to prevent homelessness?  Why do we perceive some as deserving of badness?  Why do we allow the negative people to win?  Why do we not treat the underlying causes and symptoms?  Why do we make excuses and utilize blaming instead of looking at facts and solving the problem?  Why do we just look away or put 1/2-ass efforts into fixing the problem?

Why do some have the tools, the knowledge, the know-how while others don’t?  Why do some choose not to?  Why do some search and search and never find what they are looking for?  Why do some just not know or understand?  Why do some not care?  Is it good to not care?  Does it matter?

Why are so many stopped from doing good – literally or figuratively – in one fashion or another?

Is there a God, gods?  Is there more to the Christian God, the Christian Jesus, the Christian religion/philosophy/viewpoint?  How about all the other religions?  If there is more to the standard religions, what does it look like?  What is energy?  What does it mean?  What are ghosts?  What does it mean?  What are spirit-guides?  What does this mean?  What does the Universe mean literally and figuratively – scientifically and spiritually?  Are they intertwined?  Are all religions correct with bits and pieces of correctness of which some portions interlap?  What if there is really no one God or gods?  What if religion and all that we have defined within that religion and religion as a whole are all partially correct, are analogies to something that we’re missing, are a starting point??  Does it matter?

Why MUST we believe in God, the presence of a God?

Why do we have an egocentric view of ourselves?  Why do we matter individually and collectively?  Why do we have to be in human form?  Why do we think of ourselves the way we do?  Why do we perceive ourselves the way we do both literally as well as philosophically?  Why do we see ourselves the way we do through our eyes, our souls, our beings, our bodies?  Why do we see ourselves as a whole different age with a whole different physical look even when we’re 80 years old and in a wheelchair or using a walker?

Why do we see ourselves and think of ourselves, immersed in our own lives as we are sitting in the same room with someone who is hungry, alone, homeless at the seat next to us?  Why do we feel our own pain in yet not the pain of another?  Will we become overloaded if we experience more than what we ourselves experience?  Or are we just afraid we will become overwhelmed, on overload?

Where are all the birds?  The wildlife?  The trees – tall trees at that?  The beautiful, clear, blue water?  Healthy grass and food?

What is our role in being and making a difference?  What is our responsibility?  What isn’t?  It’s so easy to be overwhelmed with “the problem of evil” and “the problem of pain” in our world.  Why is so much good being stopped and prevented?

Should I ask myself those questions?  What is the point of asking those questions?  Each one of these questions can drive a person literally insane or to become immobilized in one fashion or another so why do I try to ask them?

These questions are important to ask in the effort to solve my current life problem.  Why am I here?  What is my purpose in life?  Why me – or does it matter?  What can I do?  How can I do it?  Should I?  Does it matter?  Do I matter?  With all that in mind, what am I going to do about it.  Is it possible to get stuck?  Am I stuck?  If so, can I get unstuck?

As I’ve written those questions, I realize I have come up with answers to most of them – some still in the process of being developed.  Even though the questions and what is involved in answering those questions make my head swim and yields an incredibly overwhelmed feeling, I’m really glad to be asking those questions.  It makes me extremely grateful for Phil Smith and Mark McCleod-Harrison’s philosophy courses I’ve taken.  It makes me grateful for my life experiences because they have aided me in the ability to think to ask the questions and has provided the possibility to attempt to answer them.

I am determined to believe that there is a reason for everything.  Either made-up or otherwise.  There is a purpose – random or made to happen – for everything.  But, we have to want to make the reason and purpose manifest itself in its highest potential.  If we don’t want to, if we don’t want it, then it won’t and there most likely won’t.  It won’t happen, it won’t be.  It was never there, will never be there.  There is no reason nor will there be a reason.  Unless we want it, make it be there, and/or desire it to manifest itself/be manifest/become manifest.  This belief of mine gives me a reason for the mayhem of my life, a reason to keep going, and a reason to believe that things will get better.  Everything.  Absolutely everything.  Is a matter of perspective.

This world is fucked up.  But it’s beautiful.  We’re all fucked up, but we’re beautiful.  Each and every one of us are loved – the beautiful, bad, ugly, and wonderful – or so I am determined to believe.

Why?  I don’t know.  But, it’s good to try to figure out.  It’s good to think about.  The why’s just might provide answers, meaning, solutions, discoveries.  The why’s just might turn the ugly into the beautiful, bring good from bad.  Asking the why’s might just stop bad from continuing or unfolding and turn the bad into good.

That, is why we must ask why.  To find, discover, capitalize, reveal, create, and share the good.   The good within us and without us.  The good surrounding us and upholding us.  The good that creates a meaning of life and the reason to keep going. We don’t realize nor understand unless we ask why.  We don’t appreciate until we look around and ask ourselves the why questions.

Goodness is a blessing.  It blesses us.  I want to be blessed, to be a blessing.  This can only happen through goodness.  Thus, I ask why.  Asking why is a blessing and a curse.  There is a lot of responsibility that goes along with knowledge and understanding.  There are a lot of unknowns.  Asking why questions and the answers that unfold can “rock our world” and has been known to drive a person insane.  Thus, we become afraid to ask the why questions.  However, if we don’t ask, we just might kill ourselves, stop or prevent potential, seriously harm someone or groups of people, and more.

I encourage you, implore you — ask the why questions.  Maybe you’ll unlock a mystery for yourself – and better yet, for another — maybe even for the world itself.

Lost Brain

Two people have recently shared their fear of losing memory cells due to age.  I completely understand their fear.  The impact of losing one’s mind is incredible.  But why do we lose it?

Here are some of the reasons I have come up with:

– Not having your deepest need(s) met.

– Brain chemistry.  This is the quickest, easiest, most highly defined reason for loss of brain function.  However, it is frequently a copout of many underlying reasons that takes time, knowledge, know-how and money to figure out.

– Trauma.  Resurfacing or surfacing of shitty life experiences can create mayhem in the ability to focus and remember.

– Being treated like shit.  If we are being treated poorly by coworkers, supervisors, management, church, friends, family… we will often have difficulties with proper brain function in one way or another that only get worse over time.

– Internalizing other people’s diagnosis, labels, assessments, actions, words, ideas that you’re losing your mind.

– Lack of proper sleep.  Lack of sleep due to sleep apnea, pain, fear, noise… can truly mess with your mind.

– Chemicals in our food, how our foods are processed, and whatever is being done in the fields and to the seeds in the growing process are killing our bodies and are permanently affecting our DNA – even for future generations.  I swear that how we process our food is creating mayhem in our bodies creating a cascade effect that is affecting our ability for our brains to function.  Not only do I know that from the literature I’ve read, from what people share, lectures I’ve attended, jobs I’ve had, but also from a personal experiment I did many years ago.  Organic foods are a good starting point, but we have a long way to go still because there are still many, many dangerous chemicals being used in the growing process even with foods that are labeled organic.  Now that it’s a money-making scheme, things are only going to be getting more hazy and crazy.  I’m hoping and praying that good will win.  But “good” takes money and – for the majority of the time – the dollar speaks louder than goodness.

– The combinations of foods we eat, when we eat, and how much we eat them.  I’m looking forward to trying the idea of balancing how often I eat a particular type of food, trying the “cleanses,” and more therapeutic brain enhancing formulas that are related to the how, what, when, why, where… of what I eat.  I recently accidentally ran into The Northwest Naturopathic Clinic’s website and I’m now curious about taking their classes.  Juicing and fasting is something that I’ve heard about for many years, I’ve been very slow to try, but am now ready to try.  I would not at all be surprised if it made a huge impact on the ability to improve brain and body health function.  The way we eat is more of a problem than what we eat.  What is in the processing of the food is more of a problem than what we eat.  A cookie, fries, or a steak are just as fine as a salad.  It’s just a matter of how often, how much, and what all is involved in the process of growing and consuming that product that makes a difference.  I’m also looking forward to meeting with nutritionists and seeing what compounding pharmacies can do such as Randy’s Compounding Pharmacy & Nutrition Center.

– Body health.  Bacterial infections, fungal infections, poor cellular health, poor organ health function… will all affect brain function.  Thus, the foods we eat are even more helpful and beneficial than I have ever considered before.

– Stress.  Stress is another huge influence towards brain function.  It doesn’t matter what type, form, source, or reason for stress.  Stress can hinder and/or stop brain power.

– Fear.  Fear of losing our mind will also hinder brain power.

– Information overload.  Just like a computer can get overloaded by too much input, and a sink – and land – can overflow from too much water, and fire can erupt from too much electrical power, so can our brains.  We can think too hard, be too focused, be too determined, become overwhelmed and overloaded.  These will all create brain malfunction and will negatively impact memory.

– Isolation.  Not feeling loved, not feeling heard, not feeling validated.  Feeling alone.  Being alone too much, too often.  Aloneness – literally or no – can kill.  All of these areas towards isolation and feeling isolated can create memory loss and lack of proper brain function.

Okay… so what are the solutions??  I’ve written another blog entry, entitled “Mental Health Solutions,” that shares some ideas as to how to gain, re-gain, improve, maintain sanity…

Mental Health Solutions

I just wrote (in the blog entry “Lost Brain”) some reasons why we lose our sanity, but what are solutions towards proper brain function?  Here are some ideas.  A balance of these are essential.  If you’re on overload in one area, work on that particular area until it is no longer maxed out then proceed by adding other solutions, stopping others, or coming to that particular solution/activity/action point at a later time.  Then, in the ideal world, utilize all of your solutions and ideas with just the right balance to maintain maximum results.  This is done by utilizing sources, resources, solutions, ideas, and more… with the measurements and dosages that result in optimal health maintenance and the highest amount of brain function possible resulting in maximal life success in whatever way that means to you. Each person is different.  What you do, how you do it, the effectiveness, and results all depend on what is going on for your life and body at that particular time, your end goals, and where you are at in your starting point.  However, with all this in mind, these are some of the solutions that I’ve discovered: Make sure your basic needs are met:  Housing, food, clothing, heat, medical.  Indulge on yourself but don’t overindulge.  Sometimes a basic need is that $5 cup of coffee or $250 mink coat.  However, sometimes a seemingly immediate, mandatory need can wait – even if it’s that candy bar that is on sale.  But, if you need it, you need it.  Don’t beat yourself up over the head for it.  It’s okay to need that $5 cup of coffee when you have $0.05 left in your pocket. Human connection:  Friends are essential toward sanity.  Surround yourself with good people, great environments.  Say hi to people at the grocery store and where you hang out in art venues, fund raisers, coffee shops, restaurants, or pubs.  Volunteer for random causes.  Get involved in random organizations.  Church can help, but with every organization, there are good, healthy ones and very caustic ones.  I highly encourage to mix it up.  Keep human connection ideas balanced in how you interact, who you interact with, how often you interact.  It’s okay to say no, but it’s also okay to push yourself. Medical Needs Met: If it’s meds, it’s meds.  If it’s message therapy, whirlpool therapy, chiropractic, shamanism, nutritionist, naturopathic remedies… those too can do wonders towards making sure the brain works and stays working to its fullest.  I’ve discovered that a balance of a variety of therapeutic methods do the best work in gaining, improving, and maintaining brain function. Leave negativity/mean people behind:  Abuse and caustic situations kills the brain and the body.  According to science, even plants are affected by mean thoughts and actions. Talk. Ask. Engage. Wonder. Explore — with others.  Find a therapist, life coach, parents, family members, friends, spouse…  Mix them up and use every source possible for a healthy balance to bounce ideas off and maximize your life potential for personal and professional goals.  We each have different view points, life experiences, expertise, listening abilities, problem solving abilities, approaches to life problems, etc. – capitalize on each other’s areas of expertise.  We need to declutter our brains like we do our attics, but share our decluttering without dumping all of it on only one person or organization.  Neither do we want to dump our “stuff” on someone who really doesn’t want or need our declutttering.  That balance is a tricky one to try to figure out, takes brain power, knowledge, and know-how to make it work.  It’s a trial-and-error process.  But, like everything else, you just gotta try.  If it doesn’t work, if you reach a roadblock, it’s okay to take a step back and try it from a different angle.  Your brain will go haywire if you hoard all that misplaced information within yourself.  You’ll have literal dead spots, fried spots, black spots, empty spots, grey spots…in your brain, organs, bones, and cells within your body… if you don’t process what’s “bugging you” in just the right way. Further the verbal processing by finding solutions towards problem solving solutions for what is bothering you, your dreams, your goals, random ideas, etc.:  If you don’t have just the solution you need, find the person or organization to help.  Do this by making new friends or reaching out to professionals or experts in the field you are needing information on – especially if you are afraid you are uncertain if you’re “thinking straight” in that particular arena.  This might mean finding multiple types of business experts, philosophers, therapists, life or business coaches…  (For instance, there is a hypnotherapist who plugs in positive messages – at least that’s my interpretation of what her work entails.  With her particular form of “magic,” she reverses the “negative tapes” in my mind where my brain is telling me I’m not good enough either implanted there by my dad, people, the church ideas from what I was raised in, myself, and more.  She does excellent work and her flair with this particular work does amazing “stuff” for my brain along with professional and life progress.  However, I still need to find a therapist who does excellent work in cognitive therapy because I’m a verbal processor.  I’d advertise my most favorite therapist who was accessible through Skype, but he’s no longer practicing.)  But, if you’re afraid of financial mayhem, find an accountant or a bookkeeper.  If you’re afraid of not looking the part professionally, find a professional or life coach, beautician, and/or clothing designer.  Think outside the box and find unconventional ways to “solve” what’s bothering you.  Try “strange and weird” ideas and concepts and see what happens.  Network, ask, and explore. Human touch:  Hugs and massages.  If you don’t have someone who touches you, I highly encourage you to make appointments for a massage.  Your body needs human touch.  Massages are so very therapeutic in many, many ways.  The great thing is that there are so many masseuses that you can choose just what type of massage you want and ask for someone who specializes in just that technique.  If you want a wonderful place to try, I recommend Massage Envy in Gig Harbor – or a place like that.  The people at the front desk will help guide you – and encourage you – to try different therapists and techniques. Pain Management:  Reduce pain levels through whatever works best for you.  Massage, electrical impulse stimulation, swimming, running, the right pain med therapy, antidepressants, meditation, taking time outs…  Just remember, if there is pain, there is an underlying reason for that.  Your body is stressed from one reason or another.  It will only stop once you find the root cause.  You can go crazy trying to find the root cause, though – especially with the U.S.’s version of Western Medicine. Fix the Problem.  Let go:  Sometimes you have to do what you can do, then let the rest go.  We make such a big deal of things. Sometimes we just need to take a moment, step back, watch, evaluate, re-evaluate…  There is a balance between action and letting go.  Sometimes the problem involves seeing an MD, DO, Psychiatrist, Chiropractor, Naturopath, Massage Therapists, Bookkeeper, Accountant, Attorney, Interior Designer, Cosmetologist, Shaman, Priest… Sometimes it means divorce or marital therapy.  Sometimes it means hiring a housekeeper.  You can change you, you can do what you can. Sometimes finding, creating, maintaining your mental well-being involves “indulging in the frivolous” or letting go before you yourself go insane.  Try different solutions, therapists, experts, expertise, books, ideas… Don’t overload yourself, don’t be flighty, don’t overextend or spend too much money in your quests, but don’t dismiss ideas either.  Be open to solutions and try them.  If we don’t try, we won’t get anywhere. Research, ask, plan, act but keep a balance from preventing yourself from going crazy and making yourself go crazy in your quest for ideas and solutions. Proper food intake:  Avoid an onslaught of the same food ingredients, give your body a break, cleanse your cells (like you would your bathroom, house, car…), eat a balanced meal with a balanced diet, eat foods that make your body feel good (each body is different depending on your body chemistry, your health and well-being at that particular period of time, what it can handle, life circumstances, etc.).  Eat the right dosages with the right frequency.  I currently hate the subject of food and it’s incredibly overwhelming to me, so I tend to under-eat.  That does not help with brainpower.  If you need to, find someone to help you with the task of figuring all this out.  If you’re like me, it might take an onslaught of people. Surround yourself in beauty:  Find beautiful things to look at, see, and do.  Create beautiful spaces to live in, dwell in, spend time in.  Surround yourself with beautiful people.  Look for beautiful aesthetics and environments in every way possible.  Purchase beautiful things and engage in beautiful experiences.  Simplistic beauty, chaotic beauty… whatever beauty feeds your soul.  It could be nature, colors, furniture, art work (making it yourself or enjoying the work of others), comedy, kindness, love, a merry-go-round, a park, a ferris wheel, a grandfather clock, a fire pit or fireplace, music, a beautiful yet functional pen, a heavenly cup of coffee such as where I’m at now. Engage in creativity.  Someone shared that an adult friend of hers enjoys coloring in a coloring book.  Some write books, blog, write poetry, take pictures, create works of art (via forms of music, paint, clay, metal, beautiful gardens…), or combine a variety of artful creativity venues towards gaining and maintaining sanity, meaning, and understanding in life.  Some dance.  Some engage others in dance.  Neither Perfection nor excellence are mandatory.  It’s okay to flop.  You’re getting your shit out, shit down, shit done.  With that shit in a better place and form, beauty emerges in one fashion or another – seen or unseen – but the end result is some sort of a flicker, a regaining, a re-emerging of sanity. Socialize.  It’s overwhelming of all the possibilities of where and how you can meet new people, gain new experiences, and learn new ideas.  Meetup groups, bookstore events, cooking classes, lectures, learning groups, worship centers (any kind), craft circles (sewing, scrapbooking), live theatre and musical events (it’s amazing just how much community can be gained through attending community theaters, dance halls, and symphony hall events), events at a local college or community college… A fun sense of community, new ideas, and new friends can be gained through attending these events. Write things down:  Keep lists, a calendar, etc.  Writing things down will assist towards planning, attaining goals, keeping a sense of sanity, attaining things that you’d either forget to do or make excuses not to do, and yielding a sense of accomplishment and excitement. I absolutely love the Franklin Planner. Don’t make excuses.  Do no allow for procrastination.  Strategize, yes.  Procrastinate, no.  Never put all your eggs in one basket.  Keep life – and your solutions – balanced, spread out. If you’re spiritual minded, enjoy God’s presence, love and care… all the good flowing from the Universe.  Pray.  Be still.  Ask.  Wait.  Remember you are loved.  And with that love, believe and trust.  From there, go on faith.  Take one step at a time.  Put your hand in God, the Universe, whatever/whoever is out there and beg that you won’t be forgotten.  You won’t.  You aren’t.  Whoever/whatever (God, the angles, spirit guides, and more) are all out there is just waiting for you to ask. Whether we like it or not, we’ve been spiritually connected for millions of years.  We live within a spiritual world with electrons and energy sources floating about that we know little to nothing about.  Unfortunately, the spiritual realm is very real and can truly affect us.  I’m extremely grateful for the movement toward re-awakened awareness within Western cultures.  Do not discount paranormal activity, demonic activity, auras, psychic abilities, and more.  People are frauds in every sector and belief system.  These realms are no different.  However, these subjects are real, have validity, meaning, and have stood the test of time – accurately and inaccurately – just like philosophical thought, Christianity, Muslim religions, Buddhism, etc… I have no idea why we are so bound and determined to believe in Western medicine and that our particular religious belief system is God’s absolute truth and THE way.  Western medicine is new, has created incredibly high amounts of significant harm, and is still ignorantly ignorant even though we’ve made incredible strides and we’ve been able to help in incredible ways.  Every thought and belief system has its time and place – including Western medicine, Christianity, and more.  Unfortunately, no matter how much we wish and how hard we try to believe, these are not the only answers.  They are part of the answers, part of the solution, but there is more.  I absolutely love the Bible verse:  “Seek the scriptures for in them ye think ye have eternal life.” Our spiritual health affects our mental health.  What we believe spiritually affects how we perceive the world, our health, our well-being, and who we are down to a cellular and energetic level.  Learn who you are and what you want to believe with an open mind.  It’s okay to not know.  It’s okay to be solid in your knowing.  There’s a reason why you know – and don’t know – what you do and don’t.  Be comfortable with that and be comfortable with others where they are at.  But continue in your quest in knowing.  In doing so, you’ll find ideas and solutions that will bring you at ease on a very deep level – which ironically includes your ability to think and process information in ways unimagined. Demons can create mental-health and life- craziness just as much as chemical imbalance and wrong choices can.  If you want answers and solutions, keep and open mind, but don’t bank on one or the other as being the sole reasons for the problem.  This is well-known and well-documented.  We pick and choose what is true today and what was true in biblical times.  People today are plagued by demons and blessed by angels just as in any period of time in history. In other words, open-mindedness and exploring spiritual solutions can have a wonderfully positive impact on your mental wellbeing.  We all know it.  It’s preached about it from the pulpit, written about in the holy scriptures, and researched extensively.  Only, we limit possibilities, ideas, and solutions that are extremely detrimental to our health and wellbeing.  We come up and believe crazy ideas and discount the valid ones.  Let’s search for truth and realize demons and angels are alive and well today just as they were in every moment in time, place, and period in history. Of course, exercise is always helpful.  A simple walk will do.  Some need to run.  Others need to go to the gym.  Yoga is known to help.  Mix it up, if it isn’t enjoyable, try something else.  Keep the options open.  If it works, and it seems to be a good fit for your needs, end goals, and desires, then avoid excuses for sanity’s sake. Live outside of your own little box, bubble.  Reach out to others.  Learn what other people are experiencing, thinking, living though, need.  Share yourself with them if you can and let them share theirselves with you.  Befriend others and be a friend.  You don’t have to agree with them to like – or even love – them as your fellow friend and a fellow human being.  You do, however, need to be able to trust them.  But that takes either learning to trust them, or learning that they are not trustable.  Friendships takes incredible risk.  But, that’s life.  Life takes risk.  It takes a risk to take one foot and put it in front of the other whether or not you are fully capable of taking that step – or feel competent in stepping out.  It is risky to learn of subjects that reach outside your comfort zone.  But, it’s risky to drive.  If you take a road trip and visit a town or city 45 minutes down the road, that local will have a whole different feel, way of life, viewpoint, people, and experience than you’d ever guess.  It brings beauty and meaning to your life.  The same goes with being a friend.  Of reaching out in – and with – love to someone else.  Male, female, infant, “ancient,” religious, athiest, spiritual, bible-believing, republican, democrat, red haired, black-haired, the same ethnicity and culture or a different one, locally-familiar or world-travelled, artsy or mathematically inclined, left-brained or right brained, a baker or a cook… we all can learn from each other.  We all need each other.  By reaching out and letting others reach out to you, you can gain a sanity you never realized you lost or gain the sanity you’ve been seeking to find. Never lie, evade from the truth, deny what is truly going on, etc., but always look for the positive.  Always find a reason to be grateful – even for the shitty things and life experiences.  Even if your day starts out bad or things don’t turn out the way you think it should.  Even if your coffee tastes like mud.  You don’t have to drink it, but you can enjoy something about it.  You can learn and apply lessons from shitty, muddy coffee.  There is always a reason to be grateful for a storm. But, in order to be grateful, in order to learn, and in order to let go and accept, you have to acknowledge what truly is happening, going on, etc.  Your eyes have to be open – literally or figuratively.  If you close your eyes, use it to regroup, rethink, gain a different perspective, utilize a different sensory organ, or to rest. We have so many boxes, so many ideals, so many beliefs, so many “musts,” so many norms.  Let those all go to the wayside.  Everything is relative.  Everything is a matter of perspective.  None of us truly “know.”  We’re all “faking it till we make it.”  Some are better fakers than others.  Some know more than others.  Life is an experiment, a time to gain knowledge and understanding, a blip of time within time that is either meaningless or has meaning… we can either be a pawn in the mayhem or we can be – and become – who and what we are meant to do and be.  There are so many “truths.”  All of these “truths” are “truths,” “half-lies,” “incomplete truths,” and more.  Life is a learning, growing process.  We think we make progress, but in reality, I’m just not so sure…  Just look at history – world history, political history, cultural evolutions, human evolution, your family history, generational history, your personal history, the history of your friends and friends’ friends.  We’re all just bumbling along.  Some “get it” better than others…  All this to say… we all make mistakes, we all “miss stuff,” we are all “crazy” or “going crazy” in some capacity or another.  Some just hide it better than others.  There are very, very few who truly seem to have it all together – and if you ask them, they’d likely deny it. We like to think there is one RIGHT way, that we know THE way… That idea, the fear of the idea, or the tendency toward that idea is when we get stuck.  “The truth is in the pudding.” It’s a mixture of things, a combination of ideas and solutions, that work.  Every story, cell, structure, community is different – even siblings are different when raised in the same family.  We react to our environments differently, so do our bodies.  Thus, a solution that works for you might not work for me and vice versa.  It’s okay.  That’s why we have all these ideas, solutions, books, resources, people… that is why we have each other.  We just need to explore and try new things, to learn from everyone and every situation we can. Think, but don’t think too hard.  Try, but don’t try too hard.  Take life and yourself seriously, but not too seriously.  Stay balanced.  Keep balanced.  Break things down and take one step at a time.  Stay active, keep active, but don’t overdo it.  Stay realistic but don’t make excuses.  Reach beyond your comfort zone, but don’t fall off the cliff.  Let money be acknowledged, but don’t let it hinder progress.  It takes money to make money.  Sometimes you have to invest – which means fixing things – before you can capitalize on the benefits through reaping profits.  Thus, feel free to invest in your personal health and well-being before it literally breaks your bank and/or ends your life. Avoid judgements, criticisms, complaints, excuses… acknowledge whatever and whoever sources are blocking or preventing progress and/or creating mayhem.  But, the negative whirlwind of should-a, would-a, could-a.. blaming, shaming… just is completely unhelpful for your anyone’s mental health, brain capacity, and brain function. Find reasons to smile and laugh.  Laughter has been known to cure cancer and is well known to positively impact our health and personal wellbeing.  If we laugh, take things less seriously, and continuously find ways to be grateful, we will find ourselves less stressed, less overwhelmed, and no longer in-the-dumps. Never, ever be or feel alone.  Once that happens, you will lose your sanity.  But only you can solve that problem of being alone.  We’re all alone until we make sure we’re not.  Don’t cling.  Don’t be clingy.  Don’t let others cling onto you.  Never rely on others but do not feel afraid to reach out to meet whatever need you have.  Never be greedy nor expect others to be there for you, but don’t hesitate to ask.  Always be the first to give, but don’t give too much.  Do not take advantage of others nor allow others to take advantage of you.  Never be or feel alone. You can’t work to your fullest and bring in your maximal income potential if your not healthy mentally and/or physically.  They often go hand-in-hand.  If you’re losing ground, immediately act.  If you’re floating by, it’s time to improve.  Do what you need to do before you crash.  It’s much more expensive to recover than it is to maintain.  If you fall flat on your back, sometimes you’ll never be able to get up again.  It takes money to make money.  So, don’t make excuses that will sacrifice your long-term wellbeing.  Shamelessly invest in yourself, but don’t be selfish about it. With all these tips, tidbits, incomplete ideas in mind… when it all comes down to it… Be good to yourself:  Love yourself.  Love others.  Love and be loved.  Only then will you find sanity.

We’re Killing Each Other

We, as humans, are slaughtering each other.

We are killing each other by how we treat each other verbally and nonverbally.  Those of us who are “the other,” “different,” act as voices that everyone want silenced, and those of us who have a different skin tone or physical feature than is deemed acceptable are stomped on in one way or another.

Back stabbing, lies, deceit, set-ups, frauds… Name calling, belittling, sabotaging… we kill each other literally slowly but surely through stressing each other out by our words and actions.

We also kill ourselves by how we process our foods, how we take care of our earth.  There used to be so many, many more birds that flew during migration just 20 years ago.  Now there are hardly any in comparison to what I used to see.  We have food allergies that were never seen before and diseases at rates that were previously unheard of.

Time hasn’t changed our behaviors, but our behaviors are killing our world and each other – at an extremely high rate.  I used to think it was all nonsense.  Then, I opened my eyes and saw.  I realized, the “voices crying in the wilderness” were speaking truth.

The types of killings have changed from swords and guns, fists and words to behaviors aimed to debilitate and destroy leaving mayhem in the wake of the victim.

PTSD is a living hell.  We are yielding it on each other via so many different fashions – intentionally.  Our earth is yielding fruit that is unpalatable in comparison to what it once was and are killing us via all sorts of nonsense.  It’s a slow process so it goes undetected.  In yet, it is real.

I’m really grateful we are “wisening up.”  I just hope it’s not too late.  But, if it is too late, I hope we all die quickly and not through a torturous hell.

I’ve seen enough torturously hellish deaths.  A massive one would not be fun to watch.

In the meantime, please love each other.  Please, let’s stop playing demented mind games and stop acting in ridiculous behaviors as though we were toddlers and very young children in adult bodies.

Please love and be loved.  Please live and let live.  Unite with each other.  See the beauty within each other.  Let’s hold hands and unite with “the other.”  Let’s feed and clothe “the other.”  We’ll always have differences, be different in some capacity or another.  We all fail, we all make mistakes.  Let’s make the mistakes matter productively and proactively and not destructively.